When the feels rise to the surface, here are 6 tips for you to do in response.
1. Feeling hurt by someone’s judgment or apparent lack of caring? Forgive them, stop sharing things with them and let them go. You need to focus on yourself and your recovery, and not on relationships which are not adding value to you at this time. This doesn’t mean you don’t talk to them, just keep your personal stuff private from now on.
“Keep us forgiven with you and forgiving others.” Matthew 6:12 MSG
2. Feeling lonely or isolated with how you are feeling? First, tell God how you are doing, Be honest with Him. Then if He prompts you to, reach out to a trusted friend or family member who has proven themselves on the hard days. Call, text, message or email them when you need support. Ask the elders at your church to anoint you for healing. Don’t stay silent. The truth is – you are never alone, there are people around you who love you.
“Are you sick? Call the church leaders together to pray and anoint you with oil in the name of the Master.” James 6:14 MSG
3. Feeling misunderstood? Friend, Jesus can so relate! Jesus has walked a rough enough road to get where you are coming from. Besides the fact that He knows your very thoughts, He also knows why you are feeling the way you go, and can offer you both comfort and insight, every day but especially on the hard days!
“This is your Father you are dealing with, and He knows better than you what you need. With a God like this loving you, you can pray very simply.” Matthew 6:10 MSG
4. Feeling tongue tied? Even when you find it hard to put how you are feeling into words, God’s got you and is battling for you. Cry out as best you can to Him, He gets you!
“Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.” Romans 8:25 ESV
5. Feeling fragile? Structure your day accordingly. If you aren’t up for hanging out in a large crowd, adjust your plans so you meet a friend for coffee. You are the only one who can do this part, and by being proactive you can help yourself. Get enough sleep, eat healthily, go for a walk or a workout. Add in more time spent in the Word and prayer.
6. Feeling completely overwhelmed? Call that trusted person, or your doctor if you think something is more off than usual. Get help. If you are on medication, your dose or type of med may need tweaking from time to time. If you are feeling suicidal at all, even thinking something like a “I want to put an end to this” or “I can’t take any more” – go to your local emergency room. Don’t battle on your own.
“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” Psalm 46:1 NIV
Friend, these tips and tools are only useful if you will put them into practice. Why do I share this?
Because you may need to hear again that you matter.
- To God, to those who love you, to me here on this earth.
- And also because every single person God created has eternal value.
- You are uniquely irreplaceable, friend, which makes you even more special that you and I can imagine. (Psalm 139 is a good read to remind you of these truths)
God can get you through anything you face, if you turn to Him and ask Him to hold you and guide you through it. Please give Him the opportunity to prove Himself strong to you when you need someone the most.
And remember that with God in your corner, you’re going to be okay. You may not see or feel it yet, but that doesn’t make it any less true.
Worship for the harder days: “You’re Gonna Be Okay” by Jenn Johnson – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LjF9IqvXDjY