Be a thermostat & not a thermometer. Change the atmosphere around you with your attitude rather than just reflecting circumstances all day. –Sandi Krakowski
Tired of walking into a live drama?
Feel like you are stuck in a sitcom you can’t escape?
Sick of being a survivor?
If you are ready to take action, there are three ways to change the atmosphere wherever you are:
1. Own your part.
I have finally learned it is okay to get along with everyone. Being respectful, honoring and kind does not mean I agree with other people’s decisions or behavior.
If I am in a crappy mood, or feeling low, I need to deal with my stuff before I get around other people again. Even if its a quick bathroom break to pray, refocus & find peace, make the time to name it, own it & deal with it.
It takes two to make drama. If you are calm, that alone can cool a hot situation down.
2. Shift the atmosphere.
I have learned from experience that we can sometimes pick up on other people’s vibes, even when they haven’t spoken a word. An intuitive person, this can lead me to wild imaginative scenarios playing out in my mind if I am not careful. If someone is irate, upset, depressed or cranky, I now immediately pause to pray, something like this:
“Holy Spirit, Your Word says You live in me, Your temple. I do not want to partner with anything that is not from You. I ask You to be my Shield right now, and I send this ____________(name what you are sensing) back to the person sending it out there. May Your peace reign in this room, right now. I invite Your Presence, and blessing, in the name of Jesus.”
I will share one brief example. My hardworking hubby was really cranky about some last minute work changes to his day, and his displeasure & anger was ringing out loud in our car. I turned my head to the right, muttered a similar prayer to the one I wrote above. Lo & behold, within a minute, my hubby calmed completely down and was at peace again. My hubby & kids asked me later what I had done, so I shared it with them. Our home has been a lot calmer ever since, and we react more appropriately to each other when someone is upset now. God can change the atmosphere when we invite Him into any situation.
3. Don’t stay if you sense you need to leave.
You may be in a good head space, and have prayed the above prayer, and still feel a bit off.
This is either God or fear telling you it is time to leave.
Fear isn’t from God, so if you ask God if this impulse is from Him, and you don’t get an answer, you need to deal with this fear. Now.
Ask God to kick it out, and stop giving it a listen. You may need need o make a mental note to revisit this at another time and uproot it, but blocking its ability to speak in the moment is a critical step.
If God is telling you to leave, He is trying to shield you, protect you from something you may not be aware of, but He certainly is.
If you claim to be His follower, then follow where He is leading, even when you don’t know why.
In those moments when I have obeyed without knowing why, I have to trust He knows better and has good plans for me.
I don’t worry about offending anymore. I used to, and realized that my overdeveloped desire to please others has left me exposed in situations I should have never been in, and the wounding that resulted.
So to recap:
If you can change a situation, you can:
Own your part. It takes two to tango. Be prepared by being in control.
Shift the atmosphere by allowing the Spirit to shield you.
Follow as He leads. When He says go, move.
As you seek Him everywhere You go, remember His Presence is with you, actively ready to guide & help as we tune in.
Its time to show His reflection, instead of our reaction.